Privacy & Security
For privacy and security, we recommend you use your first name and the initial of your last name. The system also assigns a unique ID to each profile which you can use when referring to the single. This serves to protect the single’s name when browsing the profiles. The single’s representative can divulge the single’s name after he or she has reasonably verified the interested party. When choosing not to list your last name notify your Rav, your PAL and your references that are listed on your profile so that when someone contacts them, they are aware who they are speaking about.
If you prefer not to be contacted by phone initially, list only an email address on the profile. You can provide your telephone number to the interested party after you have exchanged emails and feel more comfortable. We recommend you create a new email address for this purpose that does not contain any identifying information. For example, choose firstname.lastname@example.org instead of SaraSchenirer@gmail.com (your real name).
To be granted access to Browse Profiles, a person must register by filling out their contact information. Partners in Shidduchim makes an effort to verify the requester’s information to the best of our ability. After verification, the requester receives an email with their initial password to login to the site.
If you wish to report an inappropriate or suspicious user or profile, email email@example.com.
If the single does not want to be contacted directly, do not fill out the PERSONAL CONTACT INFO section. Whether or not the single wishes to be contacted directly, always fill out the SINGLE’S SHADCHAN / REPRESENTATIVE section, so interested parties can contact the representative if they feel uncomfortable contacting the single directly. For example, the two mothers of a prospective shidduch might prefer speaking to a representative rather than directly to each other. It’s helpful to add an additional representative in case the first one is not immediately available.
If you are contacted directly by a single or a parent, and you do not feel comfortable dealing directly with them, please be empathetic and respectful. Gently, tell the single or parent that you prefer to speak to a representative. You can recommend a “go-between” for both parties.
If a single does not have a representative, please email firstname.lastname@example.org and we will match the single with a representative from one of our volunteers.
If you are willing to volunteer to be listed as a representative for a single who does not have a contact, please email email@example.com.