Include A Photo?
a commentary from: Shidduchim101.com
There are different schools of thought about including a photo in the resume. It is a good practice to follow the norm in one’s social circle. If everyone else includes a photo in the resume, omitting the photo makes a shadchan or parent wonder what the single is trying to hide. On the other hand, including a photo is frowned upon in some Yeshivish circles as trying to “sell” the person on his/her looks. Another argument against including a photo is that it may give the other party a reason to reject a shidduch out of hand if they have preconceptions about their future spouse’s appearance. For example, a boy from a family of brunettes may not be used to brunettes and therefore think that he cannot marry one. If he would meet the girl, he might see beyond the hair color.
However, it is a good idea to send the shadchan a picture with the resume, since this helps keep the single in mind. If the parents do not want the picture to be sent to the other party, they should send the picture separately rather than together with the resume, and they should state their preference to the shadchan . Note: Rabbi Levi and Rabbi Lewenstein of Lakewood do not use pictures. Nonetheless, some parents of boys will only consider shidduch proposals after seeing the girl’s picture